Nap time

Okay I realized I lied on my last post.  Not on purpose, but it was still a lie.  Sorry!

So, I said my only moment alone could be during the morning moments, well, that is not exactly true.  I can have quiet time during naps, if I can get both of my boys to naps at the same time.

If...

You see, my oldest, who is three and a half has started on a downhill trend on the nap time process.  He fights it.  I constantly tell him that he needs naps and that if he had taken a nap, he wouldn't be tired and cranky.  But how well do you reason with a 3 year old?  I apparently don't reason very well, because he thinks that I am crazy.  I know I am right and he wants to fight me that I must be wrong.  Dang he is strong-willed.  But I win the battle most of the time, phew.  When I don't it is a LONG evening for all of us.

My youngest, now nine months, still naps but if he sees or hears his brother then he does not want to sleep.  It is as if he is saying, "Momma, but I want to play with that cool brother of mine.  Please!!"  That means that I have to get my oldest down first.  Once I put him in bed, I tell him that I am going have his brother nurse and that he has to sleep and NOT get out of bed until his music is off.  Most of the time, it works.  Then I try to quickly get my little man (my baby's nickname) down to sleep.

About five out of seven days it works. Yay me!  But during that time of quiet, I do not feel like I can really have "me" time.  I feel like I need to nap myself, or do the litany of household chores that weigh down on my shoulders and that by the time my husband comes home I feel like SHOULD have been done.  No, it is not because he gives me crap if I don't do it; it is a personal sense of responsibility that if I am at home I should do MY part and get that stuff done.  I know that it will get done but I do not want my husband to feel like he should have to work all day and then work all night.  Especially since, at least for right now, while I am in SAHM world, I am not bringing in income.  That means what I bring to the table is a picked up house (dishes, laundry, toys-except what is currently being played with).  It feels a bit 1950's mom of me, but really if I get my son to pick up after himself then all I have is dishes and periodic trips to the laundry.

I am definitely still working on getting in a habit of the basic cleaning needs but eventually I would like to be able to throw a few of the deeper cleaning chores.  For now, basics and a nap for me during their nap time is good.

So, "me" time will have to be in the morning.